First, lets recap on today a bit, I found out that I could not send emails when I had McAfee Virus Enterprise (or something like that by them), and that it wasn’t able to update because some files were missing in their repository (so…  to me that means it was pretty useless at it’s job at the time), so I went on an expedition to find a new virus scanner that would get along with Vista, I found AVG free (because I’m poor), and it installed and is working wonderfully =D!  The only issue I have with it is it tells me all the stuff it finds (which I actually find pretty cool, but kinda scary at the same time).  So that’s the main thing that happened and I slept a lot waiting for Vista SP 1 to install (which I thought I installed already x.x).  So onto the main part…

• Girls, are a very interesting, mildly complicated, amazing, and sometimes difficult to deal with peoples.  The thing you have to understand about them first, is really first dealing with yourself.  Learn your strengths and weaknesses.  Girls (from what I’ve experienced) like a guy who is honest about who he is, and has emotions (but not too overly emotional cause then how can they use you for emotional support if you’re breaking down too).  That means, you can’t be the Terminator, and just do things without thinking about their emotions, and that you are not Mr. Perfect at what you do (which in that case would be terminating).  But, it is also like writing a paper when talking and interacting with girls, you’re honest, you included what is needed, but you do not tell them everything, I’m not saying to lie, I’m saying be interesting, if they ask what your interests are and you say “Sports” don’t list every sport you play or do, keep it simple, surprise them later on, if you sail, you can impress them by taking them out on a boat, if you said “I do sports, sailing [<-]” now you can’t surprise her with the fact you sail.
• Be interested in what she does, and not just pretend to be.  If you don’t think what she does is awesome, then you’re just messing with her and are being a jerk.  If she likes music, thank God cause now you have a playlist (because we all know that what you listen to isn’t really music).  If she’s more interesting than you, that’s fine, cause now, you’re probably going to learn some cool stuff too.  If she surfs, you might learn to surf, if she cooks, you might learn to cook, if she’s into programming and computers, you better change your passwords once a week (jk jk xP).  Even if you have conflicting things you’re into (she’s sportsy, you’re a nerd) those things can work out (cause you both learn stuff from each other and can have lots of fun failing at each others gifts xP).
• Don’t get physical with a girl you like.  It might sound really dumb, but in all honesty, physical (e.g. making out, sex, etc) blocks off communication between people.  Instead of listening to what coming out of her mouth, you’re trying to push yours against hers.  (Hand holding leads to babies!!!).  Communication is key for you to get to know each other, and to broadcast your feelings and ideas.  Don’t block it off.
• Good dates are dates where you can talk.  Movies are fun, but how much do you really learn about her there?  Ok…  She likes pop corn with layered butter, she smells like jasmine (and not the girl across the street, the flower [which does it really have a sent?]…), she has the cutest laugh, and she curls up into a ball when scared…  I think that’s about all you’ll learn about her in the theater, which you could probably learn in other places.  Go on a picnic (beach!  park!  forest!  etc!), cook her dinner (or better yet cook dinner together), do things where you have to interact together, so you can see how you deal with each other.
• Don’t change who you are.  You are who you are.  If she wants to change you into something else, then she really wants another guy.  I’m not saying don’t change anything, just don’t change what makes you you.  If she wants you to clean your room, clean it x.x, if she thinks you should comb your hair, comb it, if she wants you to change what you’re interested in (e.g. computers, sports, cooking, sewing), don’t change!  If you and her are planning on being together, you still need to be happy.  Why do something that makes you miserable, and why should she be controlling your life?  It just doesn’t add up (1+1=0?!).
• Don’t change who she is.  If you liked her, why does she have to change?  There are mild things that she maybe should change just like there are things that you should change.  But it should be changing who she is.  She should be true to you and you to her.  She has her goals and dreams just like you do, so support her on hers as she supports you (ok… this is to an extent too.  If she wants to be something bad, then maybe point her in another direction “But my childhood dream is to be a Playboy Bunny”, “Well my childhood dream is to be a world dictator”, there are just some jobs that just aren’t right… [even though being world dictator would be awesome till I was over thrown]).  (Lol, some people are probably looking at this like “What wrong with her/me becoming a Playboy Bunny?”  Well I believe that jobs where you’re selling your body [via images and such] are wrong and demeaning to people, and I believe that a man being with a woman physically should be only in marriage, and that selling your body like that is a form of prostitution and isn’t right [and I’m sorry if I offended anyone, but that is my beliefs, just like you have yours]).
• Be honest about what the relationship is about.  You might be planning to marry her while she just sees you as a good friend.  You can’t force her into what you want, so you have to accept her decisions.  But even if you plan to marry her, and she says no, don’t give up!  She’s dating you, meaning she likes you, meaning that right now she’s just not ready for that step!
• If all else fails, learn to let go.  The best thing is, if you do break up (or divorce in some cases x.x) that you can still be friends.  That’s another reason that getting physical is bad, because that’s something that’s now a block between you.  (There are some cases where being friends is not possible, or actually should be avoided depending on the person.  If they are a person that uses others, don’t get close to them or they will use you more and more.  If they threaten themselves or others to get you with them, back off immediately and worse case contact authorities.)

The main thing about finding a girlfriend is to actually know why you like her, and why you want to be with her.  List out reasons.  If you only have “She’s beautiful, nice, and great personality” get into more detail!  You can say that about a car (I think…).  Her eyes have the most vivid color I have ever seen, the faces she makes when I do something silly are breathtaking, the way she’s always there for me and never always catches me when I’m at a low, the way she pushes her lips off to the side as she thinks, how she always is smiling and is optimistic and always sees the positives in people.  Make that list in detail, how much do you really see of her, what do you really like about her, why do you care so much about her, what are the things that if she wasn’t there you’d feel like you’d never survive without.  Do you like her for her?  Or is she just some eye-candy to you?  Girls aren’t property, and they do have feelings and emotions (even some of them seem like the devil in the flesh).  You need to understand what they are feeling (or at least try to), you need to be there for them when they fall, but you need to give them distance so they can grow.  A girl you date is potentially a woman you marry, so learn fast so you don’t screw up then.  Don’t date a girl just to kiss her, or just to have sex, you should date a girl who you think is amazing, and that you can see as one of your best friends, someone you care about and just wish to grow with.  And the feelings shouldn’t be one sided, cause then you’d end up hurting by yourself.

But these are just my views on dating, and I’m dateless =x.

Recap:

1. Be interesting
2. Be interested
3. Don’t do the thing if you don’t have the ring
4. Good dates are dates you get to know each other
5. Don’t change you
6. Don’t change her
7. Know what you both expect out of the relationship
8. Learn to let go if it doesn’t work out
9. Date someone you actually know and have reasons to date

FFSM – “If you don’t know the answer, or don’t want to answer, make one up.”

Son: “Why do the birds always fly away when I try to play with them?”
Father: “They poop on you and your stuff they’re afraid you’ll poop on them too.”
Son: “Do you call mom a beautiful dove cause she poops on you?”
Father: “Only by having you son…  only by having you…”